#51

I poured my heart out to the meeting

The Memory

Toilets have always been a big matter of anxiety for mein public. Because if I go into the boys’ [toilets], and people think I’m a girl, then that’s terrifying;And if I go into the women’s [toilet] people think I’m a boy then I get yelled at. And then if I goin the disabled [toilet] and people are like, ‘Well, you are not disabled!’, [then] I get down looksfrom that as well. It’s like you can't really do anything! And obviously at [name of his currentschool] it was different and people didn’t care that much. But there were some people that werestill, ‘No, toilets need to be separated’. [This] was a massive debate [in the school the moment Ijoined] [but] I didn’t want to talk on it. I didn’t want my first public thing in the school to be aboutme being trans and about my gender because I always feel like that’s like something that peopleknow me for: ‘Oh yeah that’s Alex, he’s the trans guy!’ It’s always something that people kind ofthink of first about me which I mean I don’t mind necessarily but it would be nice if it wasn’t, youknow, the main thing. But then I [went] just like, ‘Well, it is important to me’. I don’t know whatmade me actually able to talk. I just remember shaking a lot and when I was getting to the end ofwhat I was saying, about why it was important to me, my voice was cracking and I was nothandling it very well. Everyone was so silent and completely invested in what I was saying andI’d never really felt that before. It was extremely terrifying but I think it was good because, I mean.I managed to get it changed, which felt good.